Working with chronic illness: My experience

Back in December of last year, I answered a reader’s question about pacing and working. In this post I talked about some of the issues we face when we’re attempting to work with a chronic illness. We talked about our inability to be consistent and some simple tips and tricks for trying to avoid crashes as a result of working.

It’s been about 6 months since I wrote this post and in that time I’ve been gradually increasing the amount of work I’m doing myself. I’ve been very fortunate that, although I was unable to keep the job I was in prior to my first major crash, I’ve been able to use the connections I’d made when I was working full time to get establish a very flexible working environment for myself since then.

Back in 2013, I was working full time, studying full time and exercising every day (daily walks and gym at least 3 times a week). That all stopped suddenly when I woke up with pelvic pain so bad that I ended up in the emergency department all day while they tried (and failed) to work out what was causing it. I took a few days off on sick leave and then attempted to return to work even though the pain hadn’t gone and the fatigue was getting worse by the day. Obviously, that wasn’t working so I was yet again on leave.

At the time I thought it’d just be a few weeks and I’d feel better and be back at work. I had test after test to try and work out what was wrong with no clear results. As the weeks dragged into months I began to despair that I would never be able to get back to work.

Overall, I had almost 2 years without working at all before I got to a point where I felt confident with my ability to maintain some semblance of consistency and began to look at returning to some form of part time work.

Initially, I attempted to return to my previous role in a part time capacity, however my employers weren’t keen to take on the liability of having me there if I was to get worse again once starting back at work so I began to look into other options.

I have always wanted to work for myself and both E and I saw this as an opportunity to see how I would go with self employment, however I still wanted to have some form of ‘regular’ income coming in.

While looking at self employment opportunities, I approached an old boss to see if he had any casual work available for me to do as a means of seeing how I go with adding work back in. He did and he’s been great ever since then. Originally I thought I’d be able to build up to 8 hours a week of work for him within a few months but I quickly learnt that this wasn’t realistic. To this day, I sometimes manage that level of work for him but most weeks I only manage an hour or two a week (and some weeks none at all).

Having a boss who has been aware of my limitations from the start and willing to be flexible about how much work I take on has been great. I take on the jobs that don’t necessarily have a fixed deadline as they’ve been waiting for so long for clients to provide their data and so it’s not a big concern if I’m unable to complete them as quickly as I’d like. I’m also able to work from home which is a huge benefit as the few times I’ve attempted to head into the office to work, I’ve ended up paying for it after.

Although I like the fact that this work is paid by the hour, I’m able to work from home, and my boss is extremely flexible, it’s not the type of work I’m really interested in doing long term. This is where self-employment has come into play.

I’ve got two distinct areas that I’m working in from a self-employment perspective, both of which I’ve joined together under the LiveKen banner.

The first, and at the moment the largest (bringing in the most income), side of the business is environment and sustainability consulting work. I reached out to my contacts at the local councils to see if anyone had small manageable projects they needed a consultant helping on. I made it clear that my biggest interest was in developing and delivering workshops for the community around living simple, sustainable and meaningful lives but that I would also consider research based projects that fit within my skill and knowledge base. From this initial call out I got two projects:

  • Developing a 3 year Environmental Management Plan for the City of Prospect. This has been a large and ongoing project and we’re about half way through the process now a year on from when we initially started. It’s been a great project with lots of community and staff engagement.
  • Developing a series of Biodiversity Trails for local schools within the Campbelltown City Council. This was also a large project for me and took me much longer than I expected to complete thanks to the ups and downs of my health.

From doing these two projects I’ve learnt a lot about my current capabilities and about the processes and people I need to have in place if I’m going to be successful at working for myself and delivering projects on time and within budget for my clients while maintaining (and if possible improving) my health.

I’ve learnt that when proposing timelines for larger projects like this, I need to schedule in additional time than I think it will take me to allow for crashes and other health related delays. It’s also good to have someone lined up as a backup person (a subcontractor) to complete the work if my health gets to a point that I’m unable to do it.

These two large projects have also led to a few workshops with schools and the Council libraries on topics such as revegetation and up-cycling materials. These have been great for me because, although they don’t pay as well, they have a clearly defined timeframe and allow me to connect with a large group of people within a short space of time. I do need to make sure I schedule time to rest both before and after these workshops but because there’s no ongoing ‘stress’ related to completing them, I seem to recover quite quickly afterwards.

The second branch of the business is invisible illness advocacy. This actually started before I’d established LiveKen, with the idea of a picture book about invisible illnesses and chronic pain. The successful Kickstarter campaign we ran for the Foggy Frog and the Pain Gang picture book, has allowed me to focus on finishing the pictures with the knowledge that I will be able to publish and over 100 copies of the book will be going out into the hands of people who live with an invisible illness to share with their friends.

This is another project that has taken me MUCH longer than I expected it to. We are finally at the point where I’ll be getting quotes for printing within the next few weeks so keep your eye out for more information about this in the next month or so. The plan is for the picture book to be the first step in a larger awareness raising campaign.

This post is getting quite long, so I might stop there today and do a detailed hints and tips post later.

What tips or tricks do you have for working with a chronic illnesses?

Share Your World Week 23

I’m finally starting to feel better so I’ll probably be back to two posts a week next week once I’ve caught up with everything else that has been on hold since I’ve been sick. For now, I’ll share my world with you again. 🙂

Share Your World – Week 23

What was one of your first moneymaking jobs (other than babysitting or newspaper delivery)?

My first job was in a children’s birthday party cafe. I guess the role would be classified as a waitress, I was responsible for serving and cleaning up after the parties. I’ve also been a checkout chick, shoes sales person, admin assistant, and seed/algae counter before getting my first ‘real’ job out of uni.

What is your favorite month of the year?

I don’t really have a favourite month, but I guess if I had to choose it would be May/June because that’s when E and I have our birthdays so we see a lot of our family and friends.

What three things in nature do you find most beautiful?

The changing colours of the seasons, an isolated spot in the bush and watching the waves crash on the beach.

List at least five of your favorite spices? (excluding salt and pepper)

  1. Cumin
  2. Cinnamon
  3. Cajun mix
  4. Vanilla
  5. Paprika
  6. Cayenne Pepper
  7. Ginger

Bonus question:  What are you grateful for from last week, and what are you looking forward to in the week coming up? 

I’m grateful for time spent with family and loving messages from friends for my birthday on Monday, for the books I received as gifts and for the thermals E’s mum got me (winter has definitely arrived here).

My birthday books
My birthday books

I’m looking forward to running a workshop on Friday with a group of Year 6/7 students from a local school to help them develop a revegetation plan for a project they want to do on the local creek.

Share Your World Week 22

I’m still recovering from my cold. The cold symptoms have all but gone away (just a cough left) but I now need to rebuild my energy levels before I’m capable of doing much else so once again only one short post this week.

Because of Memorial Day in America, Cee has focused on holiday related questions for the Share Your World challenge this week.

Share Your World – Week 22

  1. Every country in the world has lost men and women in some kind of Armed Forces.  When does your country celebrate or morn their deaths? (Optional)

    In Australia, we remember our fallen on Anzac Day which occurs on the 25th of April each year.

  2. What is your favorite holiday or holidays?

    I’ve always enjoyed the holidays that bring our family together. That generally means Christmas and Easter. Around Easter we usually celebrate Passover as well (although we haven’t the last few years).

  3. How do you celebrate that holiday?

    We celebrate these holidays with family gatherings. Because of the way our family is structured we tend to have at least 3 celebrations for each holiday; one with E’s family, one with my dad, and one with my mum and the extended family on her side.

This week, Cee didn’t ask what we’ve been grateful for and what we’re looking forward to but I still want to let you know.

I’m grateful for my improving health. Last week I literally did nothing all week, this week I’ve been able to do a small amount of work. I’m looking forward to my birthday on Monday and spending time with family and friends to celebrate.

Share Your World Week 21

Only the one post this week as I’ve been unwell all week. Catching a cold on top of chronic illness makes everything so much more difficult and today is the first day I’ve felt well enough to do much at all.

Yesterday there were protests around the world to raise awareness of Myalgic Encephalomyelitis and the need for more research funding. I wasn’t able to go to a protest (nearest one was interstate) so I posted links to my social media accounts to promote it.

The millions missing campaign used empty shoes to represent how many of us are missing from every day activities.

Share Your World – Week 21

What is your favorite go to beverage?  Water, coffee, tea, coke, soda (non-alcoholic)

Water is my normal go to beverage. Occasionally I have bubbly water from the soda stream or a tea, but most times I just have water straight from the puratap.

Can you change a car tire?

To be honest, I don’t know. I’ve never been in a situation where I’d need to and I’ve never tried. I know the theory of how to do it though.

Are you a listener or talker?

E would say I talk a lot, but usually only with him. In general, I’m a listener.

Would you rather have no internet or no cell phone?

No cell phone. I could live without my phone as I’m home most the time so I can use the home phone but the internet is a large part of how I connect with the outside world.

Bonus question:  What are you grateful for from last week, and what are you looking forward to in the week coming up? 

I’m grateful for being well enough to go along to the rogaine with E on the weekend. I’m also glad E liked his birthday present (even if he guessed what it was the day before his birthday)!

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In this next week I’m looking forward to feeling better! I feel a little better today and I hope that continues as the week progresses.

Share Your World Week 20

Another week over already! This week was busy so my posts are closer together. Yesterday I shared my week with you, today I share my world…

Share Your World – Week 20

When do you feel most connected with others?

I feel most connected with others when I’m able to talk meaningfully with them about anything or when I’m able to share experiences with them. For example, chatting with my friends about topics that are important to both of us, chatting online (comments here and on Facebook) with others about life with chronic illness, and going away with E to ‘get back to nature’ and relax together.

What daily habit would you like to introduce to your life?

I’d like to get back to daily meditation and daily exercise but for now I’m just focused on adding more gratitude and general mindfulness to my day.

What one mini-little-adventure would you like to have in the coming week?

In the coming week I would like to surprise E for his birthday.

List at least of things or events that changed your Life: It could be as simple as a book or meeting a certain person?

  1. Meeting E in 2003 and marrying him in 2011!
  2. Getting ill in 2013.
  3. Participating in a 6 month Green Corp project and volunteering with Conservation Volunteers Australia, giving me hands on experience with conservation and land management and energy auditing.
  4. Starting this blog
  5. Raising the money to publish the Foggy Frog and the Pain Gang Picture Book.

Bonus question:  What are you grateful for from last week, and what are you looking forward to in the week coming up? 

In the last week I’m grateful for time spent with family.

This week I’m looking forward to celebrating E’s birthday with him.

A week in my life with Chronic Illness

I meant to do this post last week for May 12 International Awareness Day but brain fog made me forget the date and I didn’t have the energy last week to write it anyway so here it is today…

A little background for those of you who haven’t been following me for very long. For over 3 years now I’ve been living with chronic pain and fatigue as my daily companion. I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and Pelvic Congestion Syndrome.

I’ve already done a day in my life post, since then I have improved to the point that I try not to nap during the day any more.

What I do in a week

The following is what I did in the week starting Monday 9 May… It gives a good idea of what I do most weeks. The types of appointments and work I do varies week to week and the number of crash days also varies.

Monday

I wake up slowly at around 8:30 am noticing the heavy and aching feeling that’s always there. After stretching in bed and slowly getting up I measure the 0.5mL of testosterone cream and rub it into my leg and then slowly get dressed.

After getting dressed, I sit back on the bed and spend some time checking my emails and my to-do-list, and waiting for the heaviness and shakiness to settle enough to get up and make breakfast.

I’m feeling rather out of it today so I take my time doing my weekly budget review and spend some time online reading blogs. The fact that the weather is very wet and cold today doesn’t help my pain levels. I decide to hop in the bath and read until lunch time.

Being a Monday, it’s my day to do a bike ride. Before having lunch I decide to do a 10 minute easy ride on the stationary bike in the shed because it’s too wet to go out. I reheat leftovers and put the tv on while I eat lunch.

I’ve got some work I have to do today so I spend most the afternoon doing that. Again, tasks that would normally take half an hour to an hour to do are taking me over 3 hours.

Before long, it’s 5:00 pm and my brain is like mush, I put the TV back on and only get up to make a simple dinner and to do some stretches because my pelvic pain is flaring tonight.

At around 9:00 pm I get up, take my pills, have a shower and head to bed. In bed, I take some time to review my daily to-do-list and write a short list for tomorrow. Lights out by 10:00 pm.

Tuesday

I don’t wake up until 9:00 am today. Before even getting out of bed I decide to check my emails and my to-do-list because my body doesn’t want to cooperate.

Today I’m heading to my mum’s to help her with her assignment so after getting dressed and having breakfast I drive down there. Most of the day is spent helping mum. When we finish going through mum’s assignment in the afternoon, we go for a short walk and then I sit down and do my weekly blog posts before attending an online meeting for the conference I’m helping to organise.

By the time the meeting ends my sister has got home from her school placement and we head into town for dinner with E and a few friends from his office. Because E was drinking, I drive us home at the end of the night (that doesn’t happen very often).

It’s a late night out for me but I’m in bed by 10:30pm

Wednesday

Ok, so I did a bit too much Tuesday and that time of the month is starting so pain and fatigue are very high today.

It’s definitely a crash day which means I spend most the day in front of the tv not doing much. I do make myself do my 10 minute ride on the stationary bike because some movement helps with pain levels and I order a few things I need online (cat food and my calcium and magnesium supplements). I also prepare the dough for baking bread the next day.

I shower both in the morning and the night to help with pain. In bed by 9:00 pm.

Thursday

I’m awake at 9:00 am. Fatigue is slightly lower today and I do have a doctors appointment I need to go to. The day starts with a shower and breakfast. I also throw the bread in the oven to bake.

Before heading to my doctors appointment I throw on a load of washing. I drive to town and visit my doctor to get a script I forgot to ask for in my check up the week before. After that I buy lunch and eat with E in his office before I drive home and hang out the washing.

The rest of the day is spent resting in front of the tv, until I shower and head to bed again at around 10:00 pm.

Friday

Up at 8:30 am today and I do feel slightly better today. Dad’s over for lunch today so that takes up most my day.

I do manage to send an email out inviting people to a meeting next week for the conference organising stuff and to do a short ride on the stationary bike and a short walk with my sister who is over for dinner.

In bed by 10:15 pm.

Saturday

After getting up at 9:00 am I head down to mum’s and spend most the day out with my sister op-shopping. I know that I’m doing too much today but I’m enjoying a day out with T while I can.

some of the books I picked up on our op-shopping tour.
some of the books I picked up on our op-shopping tour.

In the evening, E makes dinner because I don’t have any energy left and I’m in bed by 9:30 pm.

Sunday

Up at 9:00 am today and throw on a load of washing straight after breakfast. I then sit down and rest for a while before baking a cake. The whole morning is broken down between baking, washing, and doing low energy activities like reading blogs.

I reheat left overs for lunch and then read some of the children’s books I bought yesterday until E’s family comes over for afternoon tea.

I also spend some time prepping for baking bread on Monday and putting together some lego.

I have a bath in the evening after dinner as I’m feeling very achey and end up in bed late at 11:00 pm mainly because I relax too long in the bath.

That was my week last week.

As you can see, my days vary a lot. This was a fairly busy week for me as there were a few days in there where I wasn’t able to have any rest breaks throughout the day at all. That isn’t typical but the rest of it is. I try to find a way to balance work, social, exercise and rest each week.

What does your week look like?

Share Your World Week 19

It’s that time of the week again!

Share Your World – Week 19

  1. You win a pet monkey but this isn’t just any old monkey. It can do one trick for you whenever you want from getting a pop out of the fridge to washing your hair. What would be the trick? Keep the house clean! Mainly tasks like dusting that I don’t have the energy to do myself. But I wouldn’t want to take advantage of the monkey so it would have lots of free time as well.
  2. What caring thing are you going to do for yourself today? Bake fresh bread and refill my scripts. I love the fact I’ve been able to add some gluten back into my diet but I don’t want all the additives in store bought breads so weekly homemade sourdough is the way to go. I need to refill my scripts as I’m low on several of my supplements and medications, these are what help keep my pain levels at a manageable level so definitely a must do!
  3. What color do you feel most comfortable wearing?
    Blues, greens and pinks at the moment, but really I just like colour!
  4. Complete this sentence:  When I travel I love to….
    Connect with Nature! As you can probably tell from my last post and the photos I shared, whenever I can I aim to get out and be in the natural environment where ever I am.

Bonus question:  What are you grateful for from last week, and what are you looking forward to in the week coming up? 

In the last week, E and I got away for the weekend and had a wonderful meal out with my sister who’s over from Hong Kong.

This week I’m looking forward to spending more time with my sister. 🙂

What are you looking forward to this week?

Connecting with Nature…

E and I had a wonderful weekend away!

As well as catching up with friends on the first night, we spent a fair bit of time alone on the beach near our Ecopod accomodation. I was glad I had the energy for walks along the beach and really enjoyed just sitting there listening to the waves and watching the birds go by.

 

We had wonderful weather while we were travelling on the Friday but the weather started turning on the Saturday, with most the day being drizzles, clouds, and wind. Before it got too wet we walked along the beach and then spent most the afternoon playing games and listening to audio books in our accomodation while listening to, and watching, the weather change outside.

I was grateful to come home on Sunday though as the weather took a nasty turn that night with plenty of rain over the last few days!

Just a short post today, as I’m recovering from the business of the weekend! Enjoy some nice photos from our trip. These are just ones I took with my phone, I’ll share some of the ones E took with the camera in future posts.

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Share Your World Week 18

Because we’re going away for the weekend (we’ll have left by the time you’re reading this) I’m keeping this post short and snappy today…

Share Your World – Week 18

Who was your best friend in elementary school?

We don’t have ‘elementary’ school here in Australia, but I believe it’s the same as Primary school here. I moved school a lot, which meant having to make new friends, so I can’t identify one best friend. There are a few I remember from each school though, and I’m still in touch with one so I guess I’d say she was my best friend. Her name was Anna and I met her in year 6. We’ve been friends since then. We both went to the same high school as well. We lost track of each other after school, but I now see her occasionally as she works near me.

What things could people do for you on a really bad day that would really help you?

Make dinner and keep me company on the couch, that’s the best things I can think of. Having someone acknowledge how I’m feeling and doing small things like this that make my life easier for the day.

If you could make a 15 second speech to the entire world, what would you say?

Live Sustainably, live by your values.

Would you rather be an amazing dancer or an amazing singer?

Singer.

Bonus question:  What are you grateful for from last week, and what are you looking forward to in the week coming up? 

In the last week I’m grateful for secondhand items from friends and that I’m able to work enough to actually have some income coming in.

In the next week I’m looking forward to my time away with Erik.

Speak to you all when we get back!

50 Little Things

A few weeks ago I read a post by Mer over at Knocked over by a feather about 50 little things. It got me thinking about writing my own list…

50 random things about me

  1. I’m passionate about living a simple, sustainable and meaningful life with my illnesses. I do this by making as many things as I can at home, focusing on things that fit with my values, and making sure I prioritise spending time with my family and friends.
  2. My favourite colours at the moment are blue and green.
  3. I have only ever dated E, and he’s only ever dated me 🙂
  4. Even though I’m limited by my health, I still enjoy going for walks in nature when I can.wpid-IMG_20131207_121542.jpg
  5. Nortriptyline has helped reduce the number of crashes I have. Base level pain is still the same but I can do more before it gets worse.
  6. Foggy Frog is a constant companion. I may be getting more time where I’m in charge lately, but he keeps reminding me he’s there. Today for instance, I tried to start the car with the house keys and couldn’t work out why the keys wouldn’t fit in the lock.
  7. Sourdough bread is so simple to make, I’m not sure I’ll bother buying bread very often any more.
  8. I hardly ever wear heels any more. Summer I mainly wear my sandals and winter I mainly wear my Camper boots.
  9. I did solo singing as part of my Year 12 studies and performed in school musicals whenever I could at school.
  10. I do acupuncture every 3 weeks to minimise pain levels.
  11. Before getting sick, I would classify myself as an exercise junkie. I went to the gym after work almost every day and I’d walk everywhere I could.
  12. I still have my childhood teddy bear.2014-12-16 18.55.58
  13. I’ll be doing my first ever conference presentation later this year at the Australian Association for Environmental Educations biennial National Conference (I will be doing a poster on cross industrial and intergenerational collaboration for sustainable communities).
  14. I’ve lived in Adelaide my whole life.
  15. Our two adorable kitties keep me company most days.

    Photo (c) E. S. January, 2014
    Pepper, keeping me company while I have a nap. Photo (c) E. S. January, 2014
  16. We’ve adopted a worm farm from friends who have moved interstate.
  17. If you came to visit us, you’d likely comment on the amount of Lego in our house.
  18. I’m working towards a zero waste life. We haven’t put anything in the general waste bin in over a fortnight, the inside bin is not quite half full and so has not needed to be emptied.
  19. We go camping more often than we stay in hotels or bed and breakfasts.
  20. I like to be prepared. Before we got engaged, I’d already started thinking about ways to make our wedding as sustainable as possible. Today, I’m already researching pregnancy and parenting tips (both for doing things as sustainably as possible and with chronic illness).
  21. My wardrobe is down to less than 50 items, and still shrinking…
  22. I’m on the look out for Birkenstock’s in my size… Narrow 39… in either white, blue or grey for a reasonable price.
  23. I love making things… sewing, baking, growing, building 🙂
  24. I’ve never been good with band names, but I really like music from the Beatles, Red Hot Chilli Peppers, Green Day, and many others…
  25. My first overseas holiday was a trip to New Zealand with E.
  26. I’m a life member of the Royal Zoological Society of South Australia thanks to a wonderful birthday present from my dad for my 21st.
  27. E and I have been together 13 years this month.
  28. I’m intolerant to gluten and dairy, and allergic to yeast, cats (yes, we own 2), wool and grasses.
  29. We are currently experimenting with adding gluten back into my diet. Sourdough (homemade with long fermentation period) appears to be ok, and we’re going to try slowly adding other glutenous items in.
  30. We have a cleaner who comes fortnightly which allows us to keep the house at a reasonable level of cleanliness.
  31. We have an orange tree, lime tree, mulberry tree, nectarine tree, apricot tree, peach tree and 3 apple trees in our garden.
  32. My electric bike helps me get out and about without wearing myself out too much.
  33. Life with a chronic illness is difficult but it can still be fun!
  34. I focus on being grateful for the things I can do and not focus on the things I can no longer do.
  35. I’m currently trialling Testosterone cream, so far no obvious improvement but, after a follow up blood test, I’ve been asked to double my dosage for the next month to see if that improves things.
  36. Dairy free dark chocolate is one of my favourite treats.
  37. I own stainless steel straws and cloth napkins.
  38. Today I bought a 12.5kg bag of flour!
  39. Experiences over things… where possible I try and allocate my money and my time towards experiences I’ll remember, rather than things that’ll just catch dust.
  40. We use a projector instead of a TV.
  41. I’m currently reading Kitchen Table Sustainability by Wendy Sarkissian.
  42. It’s been over 3 years since I last had a day with no pain at all.
  43. This year I’m aiming all presents from me to be homemade, consumable/living (e.g. food or plants), locally made, secondhand or fairtrade. So far this year I’ve made placemats and napkins, and bought plants and chocolates.
  44. I’m excited that the Foggy Frog and the Pain Gang book is almost finished!
  45. I now only own 2 dresses that don’t have pockets… Pockets are a new prerequisite, they make everything so much easier.
  46. I can tell winter is coming here, my aches have revved up a notch as the rain has set in.
  47. We are currently watching Vinyl, Game of Thrones and Silicon Valley.
  48. E and I went to the movies last night and saw the new Captain America movie. It was good, but a few big plot holes in it.
  49. Arg, I’m struggling now… I had a wonderful breakfast with the girls on Sunday.
  50. I’m looking forward to our weekend away this weekend, one night with friends and 2 nights at Hillocks Ocean Pod.